Quote From: stillmelisI have a crazy problem with my son who will be 13 next month. He still wets the bed. I have tried everything I can think of and nothing seems to work. We have had tons of talks and tried different rewards and punishments. He just doesn't seem to care. I thought that maybe it is something medical, but when we talked a few days ago he said sometimes he is too lazy to get up, but sometimes he will wake up wet. I never know which it is and I don't know what to do anymore. We even bought the potty pager and tried it, but he would take it off in the middle of the night and it would do no good. I would think he would be embarresed or hate the smell of his room, but he doesn't even care. I am at a loss as to what to do....maybe I should take him to a doctor?? If you have any advice, please....
Melis
your son sounds exactly like mine--i just can not understand why it doesn't bother him either.
he would be embarrassed if any of his friends were to find out, and i would never want to embarrass him. but unless i remind him, he won't change his sheets and will leave it wet until i tell him to take care of it. sometimes i feel like he may be doing it for attention from me, because he knows it really makes me mad. so i decided that i'm not going to be mad about it anymore--but it's also not going to be my problem. just like you, i've tried medication, alarms, nothing works. sometimes i will wake him up a couple of hours after he went to bed to make him get up and go to the bathroom, and it becomes real obvious that he's just too lazy to go to the bathroom before he goes to bed. he's taken laziness to a whole new level. like i said, i quit getting mad about it, if he wants to be too lazy to use the bathroom, then he gets to change all his sheets, put them in the washer then the dryer, spray febreze on his bed and put new sheets on. Over time, he seems to be getting tired of all the extra work and my plan seems to be paying off, he only is wet maybe once a week or so now. also, if he leaves without taking care of his sheets, he will be grounded from everything that day when he gets home from school--no going outside, no tv,stereo,playstation, or phone. so now he realizes he's just hurting himself not trying to prevent this problem. give it a try--it worked for me. i find it less stressful to make them "own" their problem, instead of me being worked up about it all the time. good luck!!
