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March 24, 2008, 10:42 am PDT
Protect the Children
Quote From: jnoklebyWords of advice. Tell your daughter not to allow any phone calls to her minor children. She must protect them at all cost.
If the father only calls when high, this is not a person anyone should be talking to. Document the date, time, demenor and then keep for the attorney dealing with the divorce. The judge will take care of this. Also, if he becomes jailed, you will see some child support from his jail/prison earnings. Once the system gets a hold of him, he will stay in the system and on the child support roster until they are 18 yrs old.
The damage of the children hearing these promises from an absent parent is worse than NOT hearing from them at all. Discuss with the children that they will not be allowed to talk with him when he is high or drunk. That what ever he tells them will not be carried through as a promise when he is in this condition. Unless their father gets the help he needs, they need to understand that they will need to be adults to contact him on their own. Choose your words carefully, talk with your pastor, an attorney, public health provider, etc. PROTECT THE CHILDREN.
I agree w/ you. Protect the children. Please, get help. Attend support groups such as Al-Anon. Break the cycle of your own unhealthy behaviors. You're worth it. You are of value. One day at a time. You are the one who has chosen to change for the better. For what ever reason, your husband has chosen to remain in an unhealthy lifestyle. Put the focus on yourself and your own personal recovery. It will take time and effort...lots of effort.
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