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March 29, 2008, 1:51 pm PDT
 Quote From: sammybear10 I work for 2 women that manage by professional harassment. I just recently finished a big project, which pretty much went off without any hitches ... moving staff to new space within a medical setting. So at the beginning of the project my supervisor tells me that I should take over the facilities and equipment, which will lead to a facilities manager because I am good at it. I have always been complimented on how I handle everything with a smile and in a professional manner. In fact, I was nominated for employee of the year for the 3rd time. Well, there are a few people at work that are jealous and make stuff up to get me in hot water. My supervisor pulls me in about a week ago to discuss my behavior. I was told that I was acting unprofessional and disrespectful. That 8 employees had complained about me within a few short days. She then named some of them. (which is wrong to begin with) Which I approached a few of these folks who told me that they did not complain and they are after "XX" too and that is the way management works around here. Now the team I work with, is giving me the cold sholder, being snotty when I ask something, not including me in discussions, cutting me off in the middle of my sentences and acting like I don't exist. Then on Friday, I overheard my supvervisor tell someone, yeah it's working out great, she is wicked. I felt this meant the new girl they recently hired on our team, because she has been really snotty and they (the supervisor, her and the other girl) have had several closed door meetings without me. It is effecting me severly. I cry all the time, I wake up in the middle of the night crying. I had to leave my desk several times on Thurs because all I did was cry. I suffer from depression anyway (and the supervisor knows it), I thought that I could confide in her to get assistance. They build me up when they need something from me, then slam me to the ground when they are done with me. I don't know what to do. I need this job for the medical insurance, but it is taking a toll on me mentally. Any advice is appreciated. I feel so bad for you in this horrible situation. You are already in the advanced stages of a workplace bullying and mobbing campaign. To be perfectly honest, your prognosis as far as remaining in this position is grim. If you stay on this job for the health benefits you are going to need to use those benefits more than you ever dreamed. Workplace bullying and mobbing results in adverse mental and physical health problems. You are risking your health, the only thing of real value in this life by staying on there. Don't let this ruin your self esteem. Keep reminding yourself of all the successes you had on that job. Those successes were real, not the lies that people are saying about you now. Because of your successes you are a valuable employee to someone. Get out there girlfriend and find out who that next lucky employer is!
If for some reason you can't find another job, there is a slight chance you maybe able to turn this thing around. It's called the "Backfire Model". It consists of making the bully's/mob's plan to take you down, backfire against them, by the following actions you must take below:
-Reveal: expose the injustice -Redeem: validate the target, challenge devaluation -Re-frame: emphasize the injustice, counter reinterpretation -Redirect: mobilize support, be wary of official channels -Resist: stand up to intimidation and bribery
You need to learn more about the above by reading the entire article on one of my websites. Here is the link: http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-Bj.c1sQmeq8LY8fmKDIGug--?cq=1&p=53
Also stop by my new weblog at the link on the bottom of the page, to learn more about workplace bullying and mobbing. It's my mission that all working Americans learn about the phenomenon so that we can: Recognize it, Name it, and End workplace bullying and mobbing together! ABC
http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/
--Hope this helps someone out there.......ABC
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