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March 25, 2008, 3:23 am PDT
03/25 Tired of Being a Mom
Quote From: gwarrior6
I agree with you both.
My mother went through a depression after my brothers were born. One of them was born with numerous problems and was in the hospital for a couple of weeks after birth, which affected his bonding with my mom. I often took care of him and tried to deal with his behavioral problems. When you're not cut out to be a mom (I don't know if my mom ever was), and then you throw in a child with a disability and various physical problems, it really put a strain on the marriage, and because the kid required so much attention, a strain on my relationship with my parents. It's a big reason why I've put off having children so far, and why I may not have any at all. I just can't deal with the possibility of bringing a child with so many problems into the world....I'm not up for round 2 of the same.
How does one know if they're not cut out to be a mother? Is there a way to know without getting pregnant and going through the experience? I akesd my sister about that, she's 37, and childless by choice (if you want to piss her off, be one of those people that looks at her like she's some kind of freak, or say to her "well there's still time for you to change your mind ") .
I asked her how she KNEW she didn't want children of her own (shes's the "Cool" aunt, my kids like her more than they like me much of the time), she said she took time to know herself FIRST, and to find out if she had the time and patience, and if she were willing to give up her own career and life, she's in the navy, and she goes away a lot, okay I know many have done it, and she always said " Why would I bring a child into my world to drop it off with you and Mom while I go away for six months, you can't stick a Baby in a kennel ", I think it was just knowing what she wanted out of life, and kids just didn't fit.
You have a different perspective, see I can honestly say with three kids here without disabilities ( two 16, one 18) there are days the first band of gypsies to make me an offer, would get them all.I spent two years as a Teaching Assistant for developementally and physically challenged children, many of them with emotional problems, but I'm not sure I could do it 24/7 without a break.
Not sure I helped any, but that's just one perspective.
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