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I'm a remarried crazy (bipolar) mom of 3 kids. My ex has spent the last 3 years successfully destroying my life so I completely understand. He keeps trying to get custody of my children. He can't win, he's got nothing on me but the problem is he lives in California and I live in Oklahoma. Legal aid here won't touch it because it's in California and legal aid in California won't touch it because I'm not a resident. He's constantly messing with my finances by not paying his child support, cutting his child support without notice or causing me to lose jobs and make trips to California so I can't afford a lawyer on my own. I have nearly lost everything to this selfish jerk. He doesn't even want the kids, he just wants to hurt me and he knows now that we're divorced, the only way he can is by taking the only things I live for away. He's destroying his kids too and he doesn't care. When I have talked to "authority figures", they seem to have the attitude of "it wouldn't hurt the kids to live with their dad". That's not true. He has pedophile type urges. We divorced because I caught him looking at teenage boys on the internet. Unfortunately, I have no proof so it's my word against his. My boys are 11 and 12. Handing them over to him could possibly have catastrophic consequences. My fear is, and what he's trying to do, though, is throw me into a spiral I can't pull out of so he can swoop in and take them. That would take away every reason I have to live. It scares the hell out of me. If by some freak thing, he wins, they'll lose their mother forever because there is no way I could recover from it. Hang in there. That's what I'm trying to do. I came <> this close to being on Dr Phil, his producer contacted me a few weeks ago but somehow, someway, I managed to screw it up. I'm not giving up, you shouldn't either.