Quote From: shadycat1 I akesd my sister about that, she's 37, and childless by choice (if you want to piss her off, be one of those people that looks at her like she's some kind of freak, or say to her "well there's still time for you to change your mind ") .
I asked her how she KNEW she didn't want children of her own (shes's the "Cool" aunt, my kids like her more than they like me much of the time), she said she took time to know herself FIRST, and to find out if she had the time and patience, and if she were willing to give up her own career and life, she's in the navy, and she goes away a lot, okay I know many have done it, and she always said " Why would I bring a child into my world to drop it off with you and Mom while I go away for six months, you can't stick a Baby in a kennel ", I think it was just knowing what she wanted out of life, and kids just didn't fit.
You have a different perspective, see I can honestly say with three kids here without disabilities ( two 16, one 18) there are days the first band of gypsies to make me an offer, would get them all.I spent two years as a Teaching Assistant for developementally and physically challenged children, many of them with emotional problems, but I'm not sure I could do it 24/7 without a break.
Not sure I helped any, but that's just one perspective.
I know I don't have kids, but from what I've seen from moms on the board, I think it's a pretty common feeling to have days when you don't want to be mom anymore, disability or no.
I think it would piss me off when people (my MIL, for instance) ask me when I'm going to have them, but I just don't have that desire to have kids. I can understand wanting to have them, and there are benefits to it, but I'd rather be the "cool aunt", I think I'd fit that role better anyway. Thanks, that did help to talk about it.
