Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

My husband loves to watch the show. 

He is my second husband and we have eight kids between us.  Although, he seems to hate all my kids.  (There are five of them.)  He says they are leeches and never has anything good to say about them.

Apparantly, his kids are perfect.  They are all grown up.  28-19.  No young ones at home anymore.

I try to have a family dinner once a month that he hates.  He hates my kids being there.  He hates the  "expense" of the meal.  It's once a month!!!!

His child that lives in the area is never there, either.  It means nothing to her.

I am getting so discouraged and frustrated and don't know what to do.

How do I blend two families into one with a man like this?  Isn't it supposed to be both of us making a priority of combining the two families into one?