I'm considerate of other's pain, the pain of the children who cannot speak out on behalf of themselves. I'm not saying it's easy to raise a special needs child, I never said it was. What I am saying is that these parents who go on TV on a show, to complain about how their needs aren't being met while their children are suffering, shouldn't be so suprised when they hear that they're not the only people who matter in the world.
There's a point where you have to stop saying, "If only" and start loving your child as they are. I'm sorry, but dragging a child around by their arm, no matter the circumstances is physically harmful to the child. You can't raise special needs children as if they're normal children. Discipline, threatening them, or yelling at them what they need to do only sounds like a threat to them. They behave on a more survivalistic level, if you act aggressive towards them they will do the same to you. You have to realize that if they don't want to go to bed, then they don't want to go to bed. What is forcing them going to prove? They're not going to understand why you are forcing them, just that you're forcing them to do something they don't want to do.
There seems to be little understanding of this on these boards, except by those few special needs parents who do understand, that the little sucesses are what matters and the most you can hope for. It was said Alex has the mind of a small child. Most small children when confronted with an agressive parent, cry, feel fear, feel terror. The job of the parent is to not instill that fear in their child. When Alex says mean, he means it's time to stop. Ignoring him, is going against what he's asking of his mother to do. It's as simple as that. I mean, how would you feel if someone dragged you around by your arm?
