Quote From: ramairWhy this constant, tunnel-visioned focus and
women at the receiving end of domestic abuse? Some
women dish it out, too. On their husbands and boyfriends, children, and elderly parents or grandparents. Take note, Dr Phil. You can ignore it if you want to. But, you can't ignore it out of existance.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a psychological disorder characterized by pervasive instability in self-image, behavior, moods, and interpersonal relationships. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity.
While less known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2% of adults (1-33), mostly females. Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight are:
The Psychology of Female Violence: Crimes Against the Body by Anna Motz MAYBE Whatever Mother Says by Wensley Clarkson MAYBE A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive by David Pelzer OR Female Serial Killers: How and Why Women Become Monsters by Peter Vronsky
Why is it Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward
Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen OR Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back...by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
Understanding the Borderline (Parent) Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson OR Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries and Self-Esteem by Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman
Overcoming Passive-Aggression: How to Stop Hidden Anger from Spoiling Your Relationships...by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes by Bill Eddy OR Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive (Relative) Ex by Richard Warshak
Some of the story is typical: feelings of insecurity contributing to destructive behaviors such as promiscuity, manipulations, self-abuse, rage attacks, revenge, addictions, and eating disorders. The extreme behaviors of BPD constitute the high drama in the stories of those who endure its ravages.
Hope it helps!
