Replies to '08/14 Hitting Rock Bottom'

Any idea why your mother shafted you out of a home?

I know the feeling of being at rock bottom and having nothing, no one to help, nowhere to go but up supposedly, yet the wheels just keep getting deeper into the mud. I'm there. I've reached out to everyone and no one's helping me either. That just means it's up to us to help ourselves. I'm going to keep reaching out for someone to grab my hand and help me out of the ditch but at the same time, I'm trying to come up with some proactive measures, just in case it doesn't happen. I've had to fight for everything my entire life. Let me tell you, after 31 years, I'M TIRED!  But I'm not giving up, don't you give up either.

One sentence in your post makes me know that there's way more to your story than you are telling...you said: "I have to leave my home because her (your mother's) attorney said that in her will she made it clear she didn't want me living here."

 

When someone's own mother goes to that length to remove you from her home, there has to be a good reason. Maybe all that time you devote to writing emails to Oprah, Dr. Phil and Montel could be better used figuring out how to solve your problems yourself.

 

I believe in personal responsibility, and self-pity is a waste of valuable time better spent on finding solutions to problems.

 first, let me offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother -- and on being about to lose your home at the same time! i am very concerned about your comment that "there is no hope for me" b/c i believe there is always hope for everyone. obviously,on some level, you think so, too, oryou wouldn't be reaching out to dr. phil, oprah and montel, etc.

i can't believe some of the cold,heartless responses you got! please don't give up because of them.please don't give up for any reason.  you are going through a very difficult period right now, but i'm sure you will find a way "up," so please hang in there. some people may think that you sound self-pitying ow whiny, but they need to understand that you are speaking out of grief and despair. in all this supposed "whining" (for want of a better word), i believe there is a true cry for help.  i'm sure that  either phil, oprah, or montel will come through for you. i sincerely hope so.

Why are you sending out emails to people like Dr. Phil and Oprah?  Isn't there any place in your town that offers help like a free clinic?  You must have done something really bad for your Mom to give up on you.  Instead of trying to go to a Pastor or a free clinic you seem to want help only from people who will air your troubles on the air in front of millions.  Not a good thing to do.  It sounds like reading between the lines that it is you who have given up on those around you and it's just poor little me I just learned another lesson.  Why are you still living at home?  You don't tell how old you are.  My advice  from one disabled person to another, FAMILY is all we have and you should cherish it!  It is never too late.  Please stop looking for everybody else to fix your problem and try to help yourself.  Dr. Phil, Montel and the like will rip you to shreds if you got on their show.  Re-read your letter, it says "Look everybody pity me" in the end it's just me, me, me...  There is no easy fix, but there is agency's out there who can help you.  I will keep you in my prayers. And remember a local church might be the best place to go for help.  Sit down and talk to someone there they are good with people in need.

it seems by your post that you are in a lot of heart ache over your decision to be their for your mother, I'm here for mine and i can assure you when her time to go to her reward comes, i will not regret and decision i made, if i end up on the streets it wont be for long, a willing spirit can over come a lot of loops life can throw at you, don't just give in and up as it seems you are doing , bad feelings over what has happened only clogs your mind from finding the rite solution to your problem. if you are disabled their is help out there for you, your just not looking in the rite places for it, as to whear to look try the dds-family and childrens services,ssi disibality, some one will assist you.

Dr. Phil, Oprah and  Montel aren't going to be able to help you.  You  need to pick you head up and stop  feeling sorry for yourself.  You are the only one that can help you.  I've had a history of drug use and when I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and start taking action by finding ways to stay clean (which include AA and NA meetings), was I able to stay clean.  A lot of people have NO ONE for one reason or another.  Until you make that decision, NO ONE is going to help you.  Try and take another approach by looking for the positive in life instead of the negative.  Every problem in life, with the willingness and right attitude, will resolve itself.

Good Luck to YOU!

I hit the bottom from crack..and have been in recovery for 5 years now. Let me tell you though if you really want it, you can do it. No its not an easy road but it does get easier after time goes by. Im not totally convinced that Anthony even gives a you know what..however this was taped in March...Hopefully Lisa got her child and they both RAAAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNN like the dickens from Anthony. The arrogance of that man sitting there thinking and saying he doesnt have a problem is irritating. Okay maybe for some people it is very hard to deal with life..but I can tell you from experience. Life is a lot easier  whe your clean than when you are using and if you  want it bad enough then you will stop makeing  excuses. I f you do want it and you get your act together, its true people places and things all react differently and have different meanings. I dont always have money..but because Im in recovery I pay my bills on time and I dont have to worry about being broke on a Friday night . I have people around me who want to be with  me for no reason except the fact that Im who I am now. And because I dont waste my money on drugs, every other payday for me is Disneyland Day and I can go out when I please. I have my Masters in Global Marketing and cant be prouder about it. My clean life is gonna get me somewhere with that also I have no doubt.......D