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and I recently quoted it on another Dr. Phil message board. I believe that, in general, women will stay with an addicted spouse much longer than a man would.  IMO, this is because women in general are nurturers, which in and of itself is a good thing. Unless that good quality is subverted by applying it to the "care and feeding" of an addict. Then it becomes a weakness, not a strength. And regarding "intrinsic fairness", well, women are women and men are men. We are NOT the same, and aren't supposed to be. There are dynamics that differentiate us.

My son's father died a violent death this past March.  He was drunk & fell & hit his head & died.  His body was not found for 4 days later.  Everyone had everyone had washed their hands of him. My son had to go to California & take care of his apartment & his bills & clean everythng up. It was not an easy thing for him to do. His sister went with him so he wasn't alone. His father was a very smart man & he did not die with dignity. People die or go insane or both.  This is the worst death anyone can go through. I am angry because he knew that there was help out there for him but he chose not to take it.  He left his son with a new pickup & a watch & bills.  This man was 59 years old & he died in a cheap aparment & nothing else. It was sad. I was still in touch with him. We had been divorced for 30 years. I went to school with him & saw what alchol did to him.  It's a very ugly life & a very slow death.  He hurt his son & the rest of his family to the point that they are still angry with him.