Quote From: dulce81I am a 23-year-old woman who is trying to put herself out "on the market" (i.e. online dating websites) sort of speak as far as dating since I don't have much success in meeting people face-to-face. I have been single for over a year and a half and would like to meet someone who shares the similar qualities and interests as me.
I am a sweet, beautiful, smart, and average sized woman and most of my friends call me a "pimpette" since a lot of guys usually are after me, but I don't find them attractive at all. I only had two somewhat successful relationships that started off from meeting online and hope that I will meet a great guy (i.e. my husband) online someday.
My question is that there is this guy I find very attractive on one of the online dating websites who lives in the same area as me and shares similar qualities and interests as me too. I would love to meet him and get to know him better, but my problem is that I have always had the guy approach me first since I grew up believing that "man pursues woman" and if you do make the first move, the guy will perceive you as "desperate" or wasn't into you in the first place. I have got some matches already, but I don't find them attractive or have any interest in them. What should I do??? Please help me. I am hoping and praying that I met this man someday. All of your advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I, too, have pursued the whole onlilne dating thing and have had some successes, heartbreaks and just downright "no thank you's", so I encourage you to pursue this guy if you really think there's a chance, or just to see if there's a chance. I do not find a difference between meeting someone
"in real life" versus on the internet. Everyone is real, this is real life, and it's just a different mode of communication and courting. So...make that first move - ask him to dinner, a movie, out for a drink, etc. If he wants to go, he will. if not, he will let you know. And, if things work out, GREAT. If they don't, you know you tried, had fun trying, and move on. Good luck!
