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October 12, 2005, 11:59 am PDT
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Quote From: lculver I was with my boyfriend for 9+ years, we just recently split, June 1, 2005, I lived with him, in his home. We have no children together, but we do each have children. My three daughters live with me, and his son lived with us, typical blended familty. He was emotionally abusive, and physically abusive in the beginning. I thought he might be having an affair at the beginning of 2005, I found that he was having some type of affair, maybe not sexual, but something was happening. I stayed with him for a few months and felt that I could not move on, so I bought my own home, moved. I told him to move on, I was through with this relationship, he met someone, a good friend from school, I do know that he was with this person once in the last three months, I have not lived with him, I told him to move on, what did I expect from him. Now I think I want him back in my life, what do I do. I do love him deeply, we are best friends, we enjoy each other completely, I think, I just stopped caring emotionally, I gained weight, he was going to school, feeling good about himself, and I was feeling bad about myself. I know he loves me, I just pushed him away. He is not perfect, but he is an awesome person, we have both just had very hard lives and a lot of struggles, will it work if we go back? So confused and sad. Hi I am not one for giving advice to anybody. But, I couldnt help myself on this one. NOONE deserves to be emotionally abused,but NOONE has a right to lay a finger on you EVER for any reason. You did the right thing. You said you have three daughters. You staying in a realtionship like that , teaches your daughters that it is alright to be treated this way. I know that this is not the kind of relationship that you have dreamed that your girls would have, is it? You were strong and left. You taught your daughters something. It's normal to want to go back, but just give it a bit of time, and you will see that this was the best thing for you and your kids. there is someone out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Just hang in there,be strong, and if you feel the need to call, just look at your daughters faces, I am sure that they will lead you in the right direction..
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