Quote From: darkrain24Okay, my name is Tiffany and I really need some help here understanding what is going on. I am 17 and my parents are okay with me dating and stuff. My boyfriend is 15 and his parents are totally against everything, and have continuously lied to both of us about how they feel about us being together. His parents are very.... influential and have told him that he needs to not be thinking about dating or anything like that, however, he is a very smart person, and through his parents' pushing him to be more mature than any normal child, he doesn't act his age to say the least. His parents don't understand what they have done to him emotionally and we don't know how to get through to them. We are on the edge of just having a big talk to get our feelings out on the table. It is going so far as to keep us from seeing and talking to each other outside of school.... PERIOD. Please someone explain to me what I could do to make things better. All I want is to feel like I am welcome in his family and I know my feelings for their son are true.
His parents might be worried/anxious that a ‘teenage romance’ will derail their son’s education. The best thing that you and your boyfriend can do is to do your best to get and maintain good grades; that way, they can’t have anything to complain about. Your boyfriend MUST be honest with his parents- if he says he is going to be at a certain place, he needs to be there- that is the only way to build trust with his parents. (I’m not implying that he has been dishonest, just giving a suggestion on how to create a more trusting relationship.) His parents might come from a back ground that was somehow marred by a teenage romance, even if you aren’t aware of it, and they desperately want to shield him from any heartache. This comes from a place of love, however, they have to learn to let him go and live his own life; that is a big part of parental love, too. Their reaction probably has nothing to do with you personally- they probably wouldn’t want him spending too much time with any girl at this age. Do your best to have a conversation with his parents whenever the opportunity arises; ‘make’ them fall for you. However, if they don’t, please know that there isn’t anything terrible about you- they are reserved people and there might not be anything you can ever do to please them!
