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I resent her now for it.  I tend to avoid social situations now, and I find it very hard to make new friends.  I wasn't allowed to have friends over because my mom would accuse them of stealing things, and if I went to a friends house, I had to worry she'd excuse the father of the home of being a molestor.  Needless to say, normal sleepovers that every girl has were NOT a part of my life growing up.  During the January of 1998, we had a sever ice storm in my neck of the woods.  We had no power, and it got very cold.  She was so over protective she wouldn't take any neighbors up on the offer to stay at thier place-- where they had wood/gas buring stoves.  She was too afraid that me, and my then 3 year old sister would get raped.  I got in trouble once for purposefully missing my bus stop and going to a friends house.  Even though I called her once I got there, she screamed at me and then screamed at the friends mom too.  I was grounded for a month -- which was a joke since I never went anywhere. She even barged into a school dance and pulled me out of it early -- she still thinks that was funny, but I'm still embarressed by that event. 

This behaviour damaged our relationship perminantely, I missed out on several opprotunities to travel the world on the cheap through my school.  I quit band because I couldn't go to the provincials (province = state) and compete.  And I even attended community college in a course SHE wanted to take.   Even when I went to live with my grandparents when I was 18, then my grandpa would follow the city bus in his car. 

Even though I was suffocated, I want to say it's not like I became a party girl after all this.  In fact, when she kicked me out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday, I still lived like I was under her rule.  Like I said, I find it really hard to interact with other people because I wasn't permitted to, that part of my development was retarded.  I think now that she's seen my step-sister turn to drugs and alcohol as a result of thier strictness, she's being more lenient with my other sister. 

I honestly think that sever situations like this should constitute a form of child abuse.  I intend to give my son the benefit of the doubt and hope that I'll teach him to protect himself. 

To all the mother's who think this is ok, trust me, in the long run it isn't.  It's damaging to the relationship.   I will say this, however, monitoring your children online is FINE with me.  As a website moderator, I can tell you, people Ashley's age can cause a LOT of havoc in various forums! 

I resent her now for it.  I tend to avoid social situations now, and I find it very hard to make new friends.  I wasn't allowed to have friends over because my mom would accuse them of stealing things, and if I went to a friends house, I had to worry she'd excuse the father of the home of being a molestor.  Needless to say, normal sleepovers that every girl has were NOT a part of my life growing up.  During the January of 1998, we had a sever ice storm in my neck of the woods.  We had no power, and it got very cold.  She was so over protective she wouldn't take any neighbors up on the offer to stay at thier place-- where they had wood/gas buring stoves.  She was too afraid that me, and my then 3 year old sister would get raped.  I got in trouble once for purposefully missing my bus stop and going to a friends house.  Even though I called her once I got there, she screamed at me and then screamed at the friends mom too.  I was grounded for a month -- which was a joke since I never went anywhere. She even barged into a school dance and pulled me out of it early -- she still thinks that was funny, but I'm still embarressed by that event. 

This behaviour damaged our relationship perminantely, I missed out on several opprotunities to travel the world on the cheap through my school.  I quit band because I couldn't go to the provincials (province = state) and compete.  And I even attended community college in a course SHE wanted to take.   Even when I went to live with my grandparents when I was 18, then my grandpa would follow the city bus in his car. 

Even though I was suffocated, I want to say it's not like I became a party girl after all this.  In fact, when she kicked me out 2 weeks after my 18th birthday, I still lived like I was under her rule.  Like I said, I find it really hard to interact with other people because I wasn't permitted to, that part of my development was retarded.  I think now that she's seen my step-sister turn to drugs and alcohol as a result of thier strictness, she's being more lenient with my other sister. 

I honestly think that sever situations like this should constitute a form of child abuse.  I intend to give my son the benefit of the doubt and hope that I'll teach him to protect himself. 

To all the mother's who think this is ok, trust me, in the long run it isn't.  It's damaging to the relationship.   I will say this, however, monitoring your children online is FINE with me.  As a website moderator, I can tell you, people Ashley's age can cause a LOT of havoc in various forums!