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October 23, 2005, 1:18 pm PDT
Depression in boys shows up as anger
Quote From: hero71I am in desperate need of some good advice for dealing with my son. he is 4.5 & has a bad temper. When he doesn't get whats he wants or it'd time to leave somewhere, he throws a fit. It's worse than any temper tantrum. He hits me, bites me, yells at me & calls me names. He throws things at me, slams doors & screams. Since the day we brought him home from the hospital, he has been a pistol. He screamed until 4am. I have taught preschool for 5 years & I feel like such a failure with my own son. I try time-outs & he won't sit still. I have tried taking toys & special things away, it doesn't help. We try talking it out & it doesn't help. In extreme cases, we have given him spankings. I am at my wits end. If we are riding int he car & he is mad, he will u unbuckle his seat belt. Today, we were invited to a friends House after pre-school for a play date. When it was time to leave, he started throwing a fit. I tried talking to him about it being time to come home. I finally had to carry him out with out his shoes or socks on because i had to rush home to get my other son off the bus. As I was carrying him out he slapped me 2 times of the shoulder & once across the cheek. at that point, I had mixed emotions. I was sooooooo embarrassed at his behavior & I was angry with him. I set him down in the driveway & opened the car door & he climbed in the truck. It concerns me. My husbands family has a history of clinical depression in his family. His uncle committed suicide & his brother tried when he was 11. I don't know if I am headed down that road or if I am doing something wrong. I just don't know anymore. Even with all my training & experience in early childhood education, I am confused. HELP ME!!!! I have a son that is 9. After doing research on the computer and speaking to a psychiatrist that I was referred to, I found out that depression in boys shows up as anger. My son was very irritated all the time, would cry for no reason at all, could not sleep at night. This was a year ago. I had my son tested for ADHD come to find out he did have this. He has been on medication for a year now. He is on Depakote for depression, risperdal for anxiety and Concerta ER for ADHD. I tell you the turn around has been phenomenal. I am not going to say everything is peachy king. We have our good days and our bad days. Today has been a challenging day....But I can tell the difference in his school work and for the most parts his day at home. I am actually able to sit down and have a discussion with him when he acts up and not have to deal with the angry outbursts anymore. I have to tell you my son is not walking around stoned, and he is highly intelligent which are things that most parents are afraid of when putting their children on medication.
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