Quote From: rogtamI know how Teresa feels. I have a 12 year old son when he was about 41/2 years I lost him at a parade and I could not find him for about 15 minutes. All kinds of crazy things went through my head. When he was little I used to watch him go to the neighbors house just to make sure he made it. Now if he goes to a friends house I have him call me when he gets there. If he is late getting home I am starting to panic.
My sister tells my son he will never be able to go to College or get married because I will not let go of him. I know I should let go but I just do not know how. I get his clothes out for him and make sure he has everything he needs ready for the next day. I make sure he has his school bag packed with everything and make sure all of his homework is in it. I always ask him how was school did every one treat you ok . If he goes anywhere I always ask did he have fun, who was there, did everyone talk. I am making a nut case out of my son. I jsut do not know what to do.
Speaking as a teacher, I implore you, "PLEASE STOP PACKING HIS SCHOOL BAG!"
I'm not trying to be mean. I love involved and caring parents. They make my job easier. Your child can be in my class anyday. BUT, the day will come when he will need to be responsible for his own things, for his own school work, for his own library book. If you've always done those things for him, if you've been his 'memory', then he'll have no reliable system to do this on his own.
So off he goes to university and he doesn't return his library books on time, and he doesn't pay his rent on time, and he doesn't remember when his assignments are due because you aren't there.
Love him dearly - and I can tell you do - but teach him ways to love and care for himself too. He's got to take over the reins someday. Best that you teach him gently how to take that responsiblity before he leaves the stable door.
