Replies to '08/05 Fat Abusers'

A fat abuser is exactly what it says it is. It is someone who abuses people who are over weight. It is someone whos self esteem is so low that they need to ridicule and verbally and physically attack people to feel better. It is someone who needs a lesson is compasion.

Before I became pregnant I was over weight, mostly due to the first three pregancies and not loosing the weight from them. He doesn't like it and it worries him I am at higher risk this time around for diabities and other problems but he would never in his life start to degrade me or be little me. Instead he helps me, I know I am over weight and not healthy also due to eating habbits. We work on it together. He is my supporter not my abuser, because we love each other... I think the guests need to leave there partner and find someone who will love them no matter what. Even if they loose the weight there partner think they need to loose they will still be ,mean and horrible people.

Fat abusers is a term that people use to put down people who are excessively obese.  I know it is wrong to criticize people for being overweight.  Many people who are overweight have other health problems,  concerns, problems and issues that cause them to eat. 

I wish that people would stop and not judge people who are overweight.  They need a friend or someone to talk and listen to their concerns.  I stated that they have other problems that they can't deal with on their own.  They seek counseling.  They also need a strong person to listen to their concerns.  In time, when they have control over their life, meaning that they can cope with the negative issues that contribute to their eating habits, then they will do something about their weight. 

I have a good friend who is overweight and she is aware of the fact that she is overweight.  She also has a lot of other issues and hurt inside her.  She knows that she can call me and talk whenever she is feeling down.  She continues to see a therapist.  In time she will take control of her life and become a positive person that has a lot of self respect and esteem, she will then take care of herself.  Every day, little by little she is coping with her own demons and fears.  She has a lot of health problems and the medication that she is on, makes her gain weight. 

I give her more respect, knowing that she is doing the best that she can to try take better care of her self.  Like most people, she has her bad days and slips through the cracks and over eats.  She eats to get away from the pain that she is feeling inside of her and she eats to get away from the pressues that she is coping with today in her environment.  For now she has moved to a better environment and she would  not be subjected to negative things that were harming her, emotionally, ,mentally, spirtually and physically.

My final thought, people who are overweight have a reason to be  overweight and for whatever reason it may be, they need a lot of positive support from their friends, spouses, and family.  STOP the Criiticizing and listen to them.