Replies to '04/07 Will Fights'

I can only imagine how wonderful that was.....unfortunately, your case only happens once in a life time.....I work for an attorney and I have seen so many families torn apart over the death of a loved one.....I personally had the experience of watching my husband's family do the same......I tried and tried to get my father-in-law to make out a Will and for some reason, I ended up being the "greedy one" in my in-laws eyes because "I was trying to make sure my husband ended up with everything" according to them.  I knew what was going to happen but by the time of his death, my sister-in-law had played her role in mind binding together with my brother-in-law {my husband's sister and brother}.  They turned this whole death experience into a nightmare.....I am not a bad person nor do I have a bad heart or intentions.....I only tried to help.  Never again.....I learned my lessson the hard way.  Not only did my father-in-law die without a legally produced Will, he made my husband promise not to give into his mother and not to hand over his inheirtence to her.  Now, she has disowned my husband {her first born son} because he feels he has to follow his father's dieing wishes.  Please people, make out a Will and make sure you don't change things at the last minute because you must admit that people will and do try to influence dieing people if they think it is to their advantage.......

 good for you and your siblings!when my dear mom passes away, my brother insisted he would help me with funeralcosts, etc (i lived near my mom. he lived 3000 miles away.) but i knew he was having some financial problems and told him that i could pay myself back from her (small) estate, if need be. he kept saying he would send me some money, but, in the end, he did not and i paid myself back, as i said. (he didn't try to object or anything like that.) still, many people told me i should demand the money from him, tell him off, etc. but i've seen too many fights over wills and will-related issues and didn't want  get intoe that situation. sadly, a few years later, my brother died, as well. i am so glad we didn't waste any time arguing over how things should be paid. unfortunately, i realize it doesn't work this way for every family and sometimes people get drwan into a fight they didnt want. i'm just gratefull it didnt happen to my brother and me.