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August 16, 2006, 10:08 am PDT
School Issues
Quote From: bmcbbreedHello,
I have a question, My son is 6 and in the first grade. He is a very smart little boy, does fine in his school work. Brings home good grades. His teacher tells me, he is one of the nice, hard working little boys she seen. He is not hurtful to others, and love to lean and work on school things. But then it comes to free time, sitting still, hands to him self, or trying to be center of attention. It all falls apart. They have a program, a dime a day, or cash out. You can cash out up to 3 times. You guessed it he cashes out 2 to 3 times a day. For things like making noise when they are to be quit, jumping up and down in line, and a lot of other things like this. Not hurtful to other, just distracting to others.
We have cleaned out his room, then let him work to get it back, had him write many times over what he did wrong, Taken him out of football games and other things, grounded over a day or weekend, so many things. It does not seem to get better. It just stays the same. He tells me, he just can not stop, or does not know why. He will do something get in touble, then 5mins later do it again.I do not want to medicate my son, I believe that is what it is leading to. What is left.......
Hope someone can help,,,,,, I also have a 6yr old boy in 1st grade. Last year was his first year in any type of school (I am a stay at home mom). In Kindergarten, the school system used a "treasure chest". If a child was on good behavior during the day, the child would get a sticker. After recieving 5 stickers, the child was able to get a treat from the "treasure chest" (stickers, mcdonald's toys, pencils, etc). My son also is very smart and gets finished with his work early. His teacher(s) gave him extra tasks including helping out, writing longer stories, a more advanced reading group, etc. At home, we also used the reward system, if he stayed on "target" for several days in a row, we would get him a treat (ice cream after school, extra time on the computer, an extra story, a small toy, going to the park after school on a warm day). If he did not stay on "target", then we talked about it, found out why and decided if there needed to be a punishment. If there is a punishment it needs to be short term. One incident last year, he pushed a little girl on the playground. That day I had decided to take him to the park after school, however, we did not get to go due his behavior at school. At 6 , they are still little and by taking everything away from him is a bit too extreme. You have to also realize that it is hard for adults to sit still for 8 hours let alone kids. Have some after-school activities (even if it is you and him playing tag or jumping up and down for 10 minutes) so he knows when he gets home he is allowed to be a kid.
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