Quote From: rainpainrainSeems to me like the guy has changed. Sometimes it's hard to see the flaws in ourselves...especially when our internal thinking is completely wrong.
I am going through that right now...Frankly it scares me to think that people might think that *I* can't change...I guess that is the way it is though. And that in and of itself is another battle of the human mind. Some people have been hurt or taught to believe that people CAN'T change.
Well they can.
I'm not one who thinks people can't change but a narcissist is a completely different animal. The story of Rick has been told so many times there's books written etc. Some times a narcissist is so good at portraying an image even warped that they convince themselves there right! I think when Rick went on Dr. Phil initially he thought it was going to straighten out all the things wrong with Karen. When it turned out him who got the tongue lashing she has to make it look like he's "changed" so that when it comes to the break up he can say "it's her fault she never did her part to fix the marriage."
The "public apology" because he said he never did apologize is a lie and it was written right here on the boards after the first show the "apology". it believe all the "changing" is for show. If things weren't for show she'd be the one paying the bills and he'd get off her back. She works a full time job and doesn't have any cash unless she sells something on ebay!
I hope I'm wrong I do but the odds are sorely against it.
As for youthe difference is that you *want to change* and that is huge. I'm a ex-smoker and never thought I'd be able to quit but I did, alcoholics, drug addicts etc. there are 112 step programs etc. people can and do change all the time.
