Quote From: simply_linjaMy husband he loves me so much, I'll tell you how I know? We have gone through the most NASTIEST arguments you could ever imagine. It does get so bad, but I seem like the only one that takes off from home to calm down, or takes off to my friends house to let it out to her. No matter what things I say to him, he would NEVER leave. I don't whether its me or him or both of us that has the problem? I'm just sick of arguing. He says I get angry too fast, BUT I GET ANGRY BECAUSE OF THE THINGS HE SAYS TO MEE... Whats happening here??? someone please help??
It is understandable that you get angry because of the mean things that he says. My advice to you is to approach him when there is no argument between the two of you, say to him, in a calm, rational voice, that you don’t want to have nasty arguments with him anymore. If he doesn’t take responsibility, if he says the arguments are because you get angry too fast, you should respond by saying- again, in a calm, rational manner- that you get angry because he says very hurtful things. Tell him that you don’t need to get into who said what, that you don’t want to re-hash the last argument that you had, you just want to make an agreement with him that the next time an argument comes up, you both agree that you will not say mean, hurtful things. If you don’t agree on something, you have to find a way to speak up in a calm and reasonable manner, not in a way that is argumentative. The only person that you have control over is you, you can’t change the way that he reacts/interacts with you- you can only change the way that you react during an argument. You know for a fact that the way you’ve been reacting does not work, and you know that you are tired of it, so it is time to try a new tactic; what do you have to lose?
