Quote From: swtldyShelby......this man is a user.....he hit you? and you didn't throw him out?
He says he doesn't drink like that any more...he is still drinking?
He is addicted to Vicodin...2 years use ..yes addicted!
He's on disability? Ohhh what a gravy train ride he has in you.
There are others out there that are more worthy of you....get him out on his own and see how he does before marrying this guy.
I have been on disability for 8 years now for very good reasons, and at one time I was dependent on Oxycontin before I had a total hip replacement and the pain became more manageable.
You don't know Shelby's fiance and I just don't think it's fair to assume he's some drug addict who is faking his disability and riding the gravy train. He DID say he had back surgery recently and was on recovery leave awaiting retraining. He also talked about his disappointment with the situation. Shelby doesn't strike me as anyone's fool, either. She is plainly a woman with her eyes wide open, having been through one traumatic divorce already. She is not about to get taken advantage of again. Also, she told Dr. Phil what a great father her fiance is and he was adamant about how much he loves "our children." Any man who adopts another man's kids is alright in my books.
The area on which you and I definitely see eye-to-eye is the physical abuse. If it resulted from drinking, this guy needs to attend regular AA meetings and get anger management counselling or Shelby should absolutely reconsider staying with him.
I hope that Dr. Phil follows up with this couple and I look forward to seeing how things play out.
Best wishes to them,
Sincerely,
SB
