Quote From: mshell3572I am a 36 year old female that has never had an orgasm! I can have an orgasm with clitoris stimulation, but not with sex, I have tried many different things, even trying to do it myself and nothing works, is there medication for this, I have been married 4 times my first husband I told, and he was not happy about it we were divorced a year later, some men can't handle not being able to satisfy their partner, so I have gotten pretty good at faking it. I do get aroused, I do not get dry....so what is the problem?
There is not problem. You can have orgasms through sex, Sex is more then the penis entering the vagina. Clitoral stimulation is a part of sex as well, and a very important part at that. It is not you it is women all around. Only 30% or so of women can orgasm through vaginal stimulation by the penis. So really you don't have a problem nor is there any medication for it.
I suggest you make clitoral stimulation part of your regular sex routine. You can do it yourself or have your partner do it. You can do it by hand mouth or use a small vibrator. This will help you get orgasms when you have sex with your husband.
It is unfortunate that the myth exists that you can orgasm via stimulation of the vagina by a penis. It can be traced back to the victorian era in which a lot of women displayed signs of a disease called "hysteria." In that time the only form sex allowed was the missionary position. So a lot of women (around 70%) would not have an orgasm. There for they became sexually frustrated, and started to display the symptoms of hysteria. Recovery was that a docter would stimulate the clitores (untill they orgasmed.)
So don't worry you are not sick weird or otherwise strange. It has frustrated a lot of women in the past and still the present day. Just work in the clitoral stimulation and then you can have an orgasm with your partner aswell.
Good luck,
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