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April 10, 2008, 6:25 pm PDT
04/09 Fat Abusers
Quote From: diamonddahliaWow, I lost 100 pounds all by myself many years ago, and I'm told by you that I am naive about weightloss. Just because I said a person needs willpower. That is too funny. You have judged what I know about the issue without even knowing me.
I certainly know that weightloss has a lot to do with willpower. Not putting food into yourself when you know it's not healthy. Getting up and exercising. And all the mindgames one can play with oneself (or not) about how X is making me fat. PULEASE. You have to condition your mind for weightloss. If you're not ready, you will look for any excuse that works.
Was I attractive when I was fat? No, I was not. I was fat and unfit and looked it. I have lost and gained a few pounds here and there over the years but will NEVER get back to what I was back then. I didn't think looked attractive when fat and don't find others do wither. That is a personal choice. You can't force someone to be attracted to someone they aren't attracted to. You are missing a HUGE piece of this puzzle...
It's not about not being "ready" and having "excuses"....So yes, you are naive. There is just so much more to it than calories in and calories out...yes, that is the math of it. But we aren't made of math. There are so many more facets to us human beings...we are very complicated creatures.
Yes, in a very technical sense you are completely right, but you are being very robotic about it. For me, eating is a lot more than "will power"...for me to stop eating means I have taken away one of my ways of coping with very real hurt. And that isn't something I can do until I have a NEW coping mechanism. That has NOTHING to do with will power.
Luckily...my husband is attracted to me...he loves my brain. He knows the fat will go someday...but that is one aspect of me, he is crazy about every other part of me.
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