Replies to 'Spanking: Useful or Cruel?'

 My concern with spanking is that how can you tell your child not to hit or hurt others and then turn around and do it to them.  What kind of message does that send.  You can't do it but I can....I'm telling you that hitting hurts but showing you that it is ok to do it. Confusing!!  There are other non-wishy washy ways to discipline our kids.  How about saying no and sticking to it.  Don't threating with anything you cannot follow through with.  Get in their face and be firm..make sure to make eye contact and explain the situation..now a days people call dcf at the drop of a hat so we need to find other ways to discipline in public.  Not give in and take the easy way out just to keep them quite. Why have parent's become afraid of their kids.  That puts alot of pressure on the child to make decisions that he or she is not able to do. What kind of future will they have.  Remember:  We are raising adults not children.  Thing about the road ahead too.