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You may not truly have the "LOVE" of your life. Perhaps, you and your girlfriend are trying so hard to be someone you never were? Spend some quiet time, looking inward, see you as a child, (may be difficult), see if you spent time alone, a sibling sick, you may have been second fiddle for awhile, just sit, enjoy listening to your heart! If you love someone with all your heart, you have no question as to that love, if you do not feel that way or your partner doesn't feel that way then perhaps this was never meant to be! Stop, smell the roses, watch the sunset, rain falling, peaceful quiet surroundings, listen to who you are! You will find who you are, if you are gentle enough to allow your true self to emerge! If you go through life feeling you should have done something different, then you are not in the right place now! Reflect on who you are and who you will be in 5 or 10 years, if you have to change to be "good enough" for someone, you are not being you, you are playing games with your life and games with the person who shares your life!  Be yourself and your partner should be themselves, be comfortable in the quiet, otherwise you will be plagued by all those; what if questions! That is one of the biggest words in the dictionary. "If, I did something else, if I....., I feel being true to yourself is work, realizing you have self worth is difficult at times. You are also "GOOD ENOUGH"!  Unless you are an abuser, any type of abuse you may do to others, would make any; "good enough", statements garbage to you, and then you can struggle for years, you deserve it! She gives you what you want, do you offer to her, what she wants? Start thinking of her needs too! Perhaps if you are not so self centered, your true self will emerge, if not she will tire of you! Get real with you, crown your princess, care for her as though your life depends on it, because in the long run, some day it just may come to that. True love actually is never having to try to do anything, it comes naturally to those who truly love one another! No questions to ask, help each other, and to do all without the expectation of getting something in return! THAT IS LOVE!  

You may not truly have the "LOVE" of your life. Perhaps, you and your girlfriend are trying so hard to be someone you never were? Spend some quiet time, looking inward, see you as a child, (may be difficult), see if you spent time alone, a sibling sick, you may have been second fiddle for awhile, just sit, enjoy listening to your heart! If you love someone with all your heart, you have no question as to that love, if you do not feel that way or your partner doesn't feel that way then perhaps this was never meant to be! Stop, smell the roses, watch the sunset, rain falling, peaceful quiet surroundings, listen to who you are! You will find who you are, if you are gentle enough to allow your true self to emerge! If you go through life feeling you should have done something different, then you are not in the right place now! Reflect on who you are and who you will be in 5 or 10 years, if you have to change to be "good enough" for someone, you are not being you, you are playing games with your life and games with the person who shares your life!  Be yourself and your partner should be themselves, be comfortable in the quiet, otherwise you will be plagued by all those; what if questions! That is one of the biggest words in the dictionary. "If, I did something else, if I....., I feel being true to yourself is work, realizing you have self worth is difficult at times. You are also "GOOD ENOUGH"!  Unless you are an abuser, any type of abuse you may do to others, would make any; "good enough", statements garbage to you, and then you can struggle for years, you deserve it! She gives you what you want, do you offer to her, what she wants? Start thinking of her needs too! Perhaps if you are not so self centered, your true self will emerge, if not she will tire of you! Get real with you, crown your princess, care for her as though your life depends on it, because in the long run, some day it just may come to that. True love actually is never having to try to do anything, it comes naturally to those who truly love one another! No questions to ask, help each other, and to do all without the expectation of getting something in return! THAT IS LOVE!