Quote From: courmoor4Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 years this November and we are having some problems with this relationship. About 4 years ago we had a baby (now 2 years old) and we talked about getting married. I am the most honest person that he knows and lately he can't trust me or anything that I do. I recently quit my job, where he worked because things were getting out of hand. I know that he has security problems but sometimes it gets rediculous. I love him so much and sometimes I can't live with myself because we live together and aren't married. Then just recently he told me he didn't know if he wanted to marry me or not because marriage is a long term commitment and it's something that shouldn't be rushed. He has also told me that he has had dreams of me and another man being intimate, sometimes the man being his brother. He is starting to ask me all of the time if I am cheating on him. I give him no reason to wonder if I am or not. Now that I am not working, I stay at home with the baby. We even live behind his grandmother. I thought that we would work through our problems because I think that we are excellent at communication. I don't know what the problem is. I stay stressed out because my reasons for moving in together were in hopes of one day becoming his wife. Our life was planned up for at least the next few years. Can someone please help me to decipher what all of this means?
If you are a faithful companion and have given him no reason to distrust you, then you should look to him for the answers. Do you trust him? Have you considered that he may be cheating? In my experience when I was cheated on or my friends were being cheated on, we were the ones getting accused even though we were the ones being cheated on. Guilt may be what is driving his accusations. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you.
