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The mediator is the best person to answer your question; what was his/her advice?

This must be very difficult for your husband (and you!) but encourage your husband to not get beat down by his ex wife. Continue calling and attempting to be in the childs life. This isnt about winning or losing, but the ex wife believes that it is. There might not be a way for your husband to win, but in the long run, he will come out smelling like a rose by not playing into the mothers tactics.

My sister went through a divorce 15 years ago. She has a son with her ex; her ex has bad mouthed her to the son, said very negative and disrespectful comments about her, and tried to withhold the shared custody arrangement. Through the years, there have been many tears shed by my sister; she could have told her son bad, negative things about his father- but she didnt. She knew that it would only hurt him. It has been very difficult! Her son is now 19, and over this past year, he has slowly opened up to my sister about the personal pain caused by his father. I wish I could say that she feels vindicated or good, but of course, there is no satisfaction. It is so sad. Your husbands ex-wifes actions are hurtful to your husband, but they will hurt the children even more in the long run.

Do your best to be positive and encouraging; there will be good days and bad days. Be a positive supporter when needed and dont give up! I wish you the best.