Quote From: ladypawn I am a mother of seven children. Three of whom are under the age of 7. I keep seeing the word spirited used a lot here and Im wondering if maybe out of control is a better term to use in my situation rather than spirited.
My boys are 5 and 6 years old and on a daily basis I listen to them throw temper tantrums, fight with each other, cry, sometimes use foul language..etc.. the list goes on.
There seems to be nothing that phases them at all in the least to motivate them to stop the bad behaviour and get better. Seems like they dont want to learn.
When they dont get what they want.. they throw a fit.. we are talking about a MAJOR fit. There is always screaming, and sometimes fighting. Sometimes I dont tell them no because Im not in the mood to hear the sceaming about it. I know this isnt the appropriate thing to do and will only make matters worse.. but Im at my wits end with this and dont know what else to do.
Here are a few things Ive tried... time outs.. spanking...taking toys..taking tv..writing.
Nothing works.
NOthing phases them.
There seems to be a lot of competition amongst them so much to the point that they take it to a physical level at times.
I dont want to yell at them.. but sometimes it seems as if that is all they want me to do. Im tired of not being able to open my windows in the house for fear that someone will hear the yelling and the crying and think the worse of me and the children.
I love them with all my heart and I only want the best for them.
Any suggestions would be wonderful.
thanks in advance..
ladypawn
I think I like the term spirited because it makes it seem as less of a BAD label, if you know what I mean. I to have a spirited child that can sometimes do before he thinks. He is ADHD and we are learning to deal with him in a new way (well new to us anyway). I know exactly what you mean about the yelling. I have also had the same feeling at times about not raising windows. My husband has even come in from work and said he could hear my son and I from the driveway. The Dr. has told us the best thing to do is just ignore the tantrum. I know it can be very hard to do. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but it might be worth a try. The medication for his ADHD is also helping. Also I know from having my other children sometimes it is also an attention getter.
Good Luck.
sltell
