Replies to '04/17 "You're a Liar!"'

I sure do know how you feel, my mother is a chronic lier to and I have broken contact with her 2 years ago. She would lie about every thing stupid things and expect me to back her up or be exposed to "the wrath of mom" It is relay hard to live with from a loved one.  I can understand that you are afraid your children will inherit it because I have the same worry. We have remedied that with talking about the consequences of lieing and how no one will believe them when they say the truth if they lie. We have also showed real pride and praise when they tell the truth, like when one of the children smashed the back window on the car and we asked who did it, when the child admitted it we praised them very much and said how proud we were of them for admitting it, about the window we said that they should try and be more careful in the future. Another thing we have done is when the child has said "I'm hungry" and got the food they wanted only not to eat it. The next time they said "I'm hungry" we didn't give them food (even though we knew they must really be hungry) and explained that "remember when you said you were hungry at the gas station and we bought you a hot dog and you didn't eat it?  you weren't hungry then how can we believe you are hungry now?" We let them go hungry to show them that they have to think over what they say, and that it has consequences, when doing this you have to have a situation that is the same so you can show why you don't believe them.  And don't gloat, show them that you mean well, don't shove the other lie in their faces, do it careingly.