Quote From: shenlunch I have a 27 year old son, he's married, father of two and luckily he works full time. He lies to everyone, except his kids! I love him to death, but he is tearing my heart out with the lies.
Nine years ago he was in a serious car accident and I have always believed that, that was when the problem started. He and his wife owe us thousands of dollars. I know we will never see it. My husband on the other hand, hopes that we will get it back. Every month we are told, "after the checks clear", "when I get my money from bowling" etc. they have now taken money from another family member who needs it.
The big problem that I see is that they don't realize that they are doing it. The word come out so easily and they can look you right in the eye and you will believe them, but deep down I know that they are lying.
I love these two with all my heart, will do anything for them. But they are causing such heartache.
As long as you and your husband continue to enable and support your son and daughter-in-law they will continue to hold their hand out....why not? It's working for them!! and YES, they DO realize what they're doing......do you think they black out while you're handing them money and then suddenly come to wondering how that money got into their hands?
And please don't allow them to use their children as a tool for extorting money from you......if you shut down the bank, your son and his wife WILL find a way to survive on their own and it's the biggest favor you can do for them, and the best way to show that you love them.
The greatest gift we can give our children is the gift of independence!
Stop being fools.
