Quote From: queenzentaOf course they didn"t want you there! You"re 30 years younger than him!! You said one key thing: "I am in charge now!". If you"re going around with that attitude, I hope they recover ALL their dad"s money from you. You earn respect, you don't expect respect. By taking care of their father, you'll earn that. But you need to adjust your attitude.
My dad's woman, whom I didn't meet until I was 20, is doing this to me. My child was diagnosed with autism, and she's holding the purse strings in some sort of stupid power struggle to show me and him who's "boss" (never mind she's never worked). All the while, I need to get my son into early treatment. Now. My mom is just as bad. She drove my step-sister to the point that she tried to kill herself to escape my mother's physical and psychological abuse. She's holding our half-sister as hostage just like the witch in the story.
I'm so sick of these selfish step-women! If you want to be a horrible B, you should go work in a crowded office of mostly women, that way no children have to be caught up in it. There's a reason fairtales potray step-mothers the way they do. They are the anti-thesis to what a mother is.
I understand exactly what you mean. I am not doing a power struggle with them, I don't think so anyway! They have done so many rotten things to me, I always treated them with respect. I have given them my time, cleaned rooms when they came to visit, put up with doors being slammed in my face for no reason. It was over going to a therapy session with all of them so we could work on things to help my husband through his beginning depression before diagnosis of alzheimers. The children sat there for an hour pointing fingers at every thing their father did wrong all the years they grew up! I kindly interupted and asked them if they knew how much their father loved them? I know all this! Seeing them sit their and degrade him this badly they he stayed in his room for 3 days and would not get out of bed to eat or anything. What a mess that was to clean up!
Their father has supplied his four children with money, home and cars for the last 40 years, none of them have jobs. Daddy has always given them anything they needed. I think it is time for them to stand on their own feet and get a job. They have not seen their father in 2 years. They only call him when they need money! It is really sad to see him treated this way. They all have trust funds, etc. but the worst part of it is when he passes away, the money he has given them to live on are all signed contracts, notorized and such that there is almost 1 million dollars that has to be paid back into the estate before it can be settled.
I never asked to be their mother, I only asked for respect! I wanted to get to know them! But they never let me in. They call and tell me what to do, not ask! Even when I have called them in the past when my husband has had a heart attack I would be respectful and give them all the information. They are his children, but I feel I have been abused long enough. The children I am sure could be nice, but they have pushed me to far! I have really tried to be nice to them. I think about their father! On his birthday or any holiday, he sits and cries all day becasue they have not called him, I finally pick up the phone and dial their numbers so he can be happy! I don't know what else I can do to be a part of this family. My children treat my husband with the utmost respect! They visit him at the nursing home often, they call, my grandchildren send him cards. His family does not send anything at all. Not even at Christmas, no gifts, I even sent them all a list of things he could use. After Christmas he said to me, I guess my kids don't care for me, I also sent them all (family tradition) a $1,000) for each of them. I have tried to be nice. Thanks
