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April 14, 2008, 3:44 pm PDT
thank you for the responce
Quote From: ut27girlIf she is not willing to take a polygragh then she probably isn't telling you the whole truth. If she had nothing to hide then it wouldn't be a problem. Like Dr. Phil says, for every rat you see, theres 50 you don't. I think that is a pretty acurate stetement. When i found out about my husband he came clean with about 10 other things that he had done with other woman. If you need her to take one to have peace of mind,she should be willing to do anything it takes! She broke the trust. Now she needs to rebuild it. how did you handle that. did you work through it or was it over. i have never truely loved anyone before and i opened my hart to her and was honest with her every day and we told each other that if we were ever unhappy we would just leave each other and not play games. i truely believed her. in her past relationships she was cheated on and did not want to put anyone else through that. i have come to find out that she was the one that cheated in all the relationships either first or after she found out he was. our relationship has had its ups and downs and i have been 100% honest with her and i have proof for i take polygraphs every six mounths and and they ask about my relationships and i have past everyone of them. and i have told her that i have. but she still accuses me of cheating on her. i know we have a long road ahead of us. she needs to find out what her core needs are and set up a relapse prevention plan to help her in the future. i have tried to teach her RP and the 4-step many of times but she feels that she can do it on her own. thanks for letting me vent a little it has been hard at time but i have a good suport group of friends and family but sometimes i just need an out side opinion. tahnks
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