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April 19, 2008, 2:58 pm PDT
Dear Truckingalong
Quote From: truckingalongHello everyone,
I need your help. I find that with being so busy and guilty that I only look at what is wrong instead of what is right and good. This has ruined releastionships in the past and now I am using it in my parenting. All I think I say to my daughter is don't do this, don't do that, why did you do that, that was rude, you know better and so on. I know alot of you out there are very patient does anyone have anytips for stopping yourself to think before you speak and to be really patient? I feel slightly better now knowing im not the only one who feels like a nit picker. I have 3 kids ages 17, 12, and soon to be 10. I am a single mom....have been for many years and the last 15 months I have been working the graveyard shift. With this being the case I am usually always tired because I like to be awake before they arrive home from school and often I am the only one who does the housework. It was always so easy for me to do it when they were younger that now im paying the price! We rent our house furnished so also im always worried about things getting broken so I do nit pick. Sometimes I wonder if I should just go on medication but I dont feel that is the cure....I want a miracle....for my kids to see how hard i work and to help out. They want to do fun things and get stuff but I dont think its appropriate when they dont help so that causes further problems especially with the eldest. I would like to just see his room clean without me hounding him. Am I wrong to want this? I too can use suggestions.
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