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April 21, 2008, 7:38 am PDT
excellent book
Quote From: hope4us Hi,
I raised my twins as a single mother. A boy and a girl. They are 22 now, and different as night and day. My daughter has a good full time job, owns her car, and is buying and condo, oh and she is finishing up her AA degree at the local community college. As proud I am of her is how sad I am about her twin brother. He quit school within spitting distance of senior graduation despite my efforts, and he talks a lot about getting a GED but so far it is just talk. He has lived hand to mouth by his own choice, and he is headed down a long hard road that I tried my best to have him avoid. At present I cannot communicate with him because he is always angry and resentful of everyone and everything. I blame his inability to function in this world on myself. I did not have a man in my life that he could look up to and model himself after. Instead he began to emmulate his "criminal" father. Now he acts and talks like his father and I am terrified for him. He deserves better than that and I cannot reach him. Single moms need to have a good male role model in their sons' lives. Being a good mom is not good enough for men in the making. I truly believe that this is why we have so many young men going in and out of prison and making babies that they have no intention of supporting. I hope other moms with little boys realize how vital it is to get your son with a good man, grandpa or big brothers, or maybe an uncle or pastor. They are men in the making and they don't bake right when momma is the only one raising them. There is an excellent book called raising boy's without men. It is a long term study done on single female parent homes, and lesbian parents that proves that men do not always need a male rolemodel to succeed in life. I am a single mother of a boy, and so far i am lucky enough to have positive male influences around him. But don't be discouraged. I encourage single mothers raising boys to read this book.
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