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 This will be kind of long & complicated but please help me out ! I really need some advice.

My Fiance & I have been dating for a little over 2 years now, and back then I was a bit controlling of my boyfriend & eventually he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend which was about 8 months into our relationship. he was seeing her behind my back for a month before i found out that he was cheating on me. once i confronted him about it, he told me he did like her, but he wanted to be with me and he broke it off with her and i took him back. even though i tried really hard to forget the past, thinking about what he did still hurt me inside and in some ways, you could say i wanted revenge.

my fiance left for the air force while we were dating for about 2 years and when he left, i found out he lied about some stuff that was a big deal to me at the time, but not so much to me anymore now. the reason i was so upset at the time was because of the fact that he lied to me and he has a history of lying to me about everything, constantly. So, i took that chance of him being gone for me to dump him and forget him. i thought " this is my chance to finally move on since he's not here anymore" i dumped him through a letter and then about a week after, i went out with this guy who had been interested in me for quite some time. while going out with this other guy, my fiance was still in the back of my mind constantly but that didnt mean i genuinely had feelings for this other guy as well. once my fiance came back, he we talked and ended up getting back together.

Later on, however, i found out he had been talking to this other girl behind my back for several months while we had gotten back together. He told me it was nothing but then when i looked at the phone bills, he had been talking to her for days straight and for LONG hours. sometimes even at 230 in the morning. He told me that he wanted to get back at me for what i had done.

when i had dated the other man, i thought that him and i were even and i felt a little better about everything. i felt that we could move on. but him doing that again makes me feel like i need revenge again for me to move on with this relationship happily. i know it sounds wrong but i just cant understand why he keeps doing that to me. its not even like i cheated on him. i don't know what to do. i'm scared that he will continue to do this in the future if he is unhappy with me or something. but he constantly assures me now that he loves only me and wants me to be his wife and that he cant imagine being with anyone else than me. should i believe him and give this marriage a chance? is it wrong if i "settle" the score again ? please help me with this confusion.