Quote From: mamajellybeanI am in my 2nd marriage and love my husband dearly. However, I cannot seem to get thru to him that I don't have any interest in sex. As a child I was sexually molested by a family member. I said nothing at the time when I was 8-9 years of age. When I was about 29 years old I finally began to share what happened. Turns out that I was not the only family member this happened to. While dating my husband and early on in our marriage sex was great and frequent. However, since I had my last child who is now about to turn 9 I have had a significant loss of interest when it comes to sex. I enjoy cuddling, kissing, spending time together but nothing more. I actually cringe when my husband touches me in any way that can be a footstool to having a sexual experience with him. I am now 43. Can this be a delay from not dealing with the sexual abuse as a child?
Well I think this is something that we (the other board users) cannot answer for you, nor really help you with. You could try seeing a psychologist or sexologist for it if you want to (it wouldn't be wierd to do that for this kind of problem!!) I hope that you can solve this in a way that you can feel comfortable with.
Take care,
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