Quote From: qqqhhhHow about a day of TURNABOUT...
Where you turn into him for the day? Start when he asks you for something. Pitch a hissy and stomp around. Drudge up all that old negative behavior and hold it AGAINST HIM!
Spend the day stomping around, and being a royal pain.
Then when you think he's gotten the message -- explain to him that THAT is how people see him, that it is completely unacceptable and you wanted to give him a hefty dose of his OWN behavior so he can see how it feels to be on the receiving end.
I've done this once or twice with my kids and they got the picture.
Sometimes I have let my kids get away with having an attitude up to a point but there IS a line that I DO NOT let them cross. I MAINTAIN that line. It's why I am the parent/teacher/guider. For us, yelling or any other kind of really disrespectful is simply not allowed or tolerated. When they used to cross that line they got some very eye-opeing consequences.
Hope that helps. Q
I have done that too and it actually does show them a dramatic picture of what they look like. My son is 5 almost 6 and has the same sorts of "attitude problems" at times. I also take away all of his earned privledges and most of the time that works.
When he is being especially whiny though I have imitated him just like the previous poster described, not all day, just for a minute or two.
He looked at me with wide eyes the first time and then started busting out laughing. Then he said...no wonder people want to keep poking at me when I'm mad...that was pretty funny mom"
He got the picture...now if I ever do that he just laughs and says nothing but his behaviour improves immediately.
