Replies to '03/16 Cheerleader Scandal'

As a 17 year old girl myself, watching this show made me realize a lot of things in regard to relationships and forgivess.  When I was listening to Brandi, it was like listening to just another girlfriend of mine.  I know how stressful boys can be;; just in my cases of course not to the extent of abuse and such.  It's like when your 17 and dealing with the stress of boys, you can identify with these others girls and sort of feel thier pain. My heart goes out to both families- for the physical loss of a son and for the emotional loss of a daughter.  I pray that both families will be able to work this experience out in their hearts and seek out and ask God to help them deal with this trial. 

 I felt bad for Brandi when she was explaining what had happened in the accident.  We all make mistakes... and hers was careless, yes;; BUT in the heat of the moment, sometimes things happen that you don't mean for. I believe her when she said it was an accident.  Just from watching the show and seeing the remorse she felt-- you can tell she didn't mean to hurt Daniel.   

To Brandi's family: Not only do I think the courage you have shown throughout this trial in your life is outstanding and admirable, I also feel that the way that you handled Daniel's mother and sister on the program was very mature and respectable. Not one time did I hear you insult his family, the way that they were badgering you and running you and your daughter/sister down.  Although I know that Daniel's family lost a very wonderful brother and son, and that is so traumatic;; I do not think that the rude comments that Daniel's mother made were at all in the right and should have been said at all. To call Brandi's mother a "piss-poor mother" was down right unclassy.  No mother should ever be called that, no matter what case.  I know that his mother and sister (and whole family!) must be feeling so much pain from the loss, but to act out in anger should not be the answer.   

It made me sad me feel very sad for Daniel's family when his mother and sister repeatedly kept saying that they will never forgive Brandi.  What a shame.  To think that Jesus Christ laid down his life to pay for our sins and he always forgives us for our wrongdoings, and they cannot forgive this poor family.  They will suffer from the pain of Daniel's death for the rest of their lives if they cannot find it in thier heart to forgive and find peace from the Lord.  By forgiving doesn't ever mean you will forget the loss of your son, but instead to find peace in your heart.  Remember that the Lord will never give you something that you can't handle and this trial will help you to become a stronger and closer family.  Look to God in all aspects of your life and trust Him in all that you do.  Good can always come out of a bad situation.   

I just wanted to give my perspective and a 17 year old and tell these families that seeking God and finding forgiveness in your heart is the answer.  I know that it won't be easy, but try it.   

Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God." 

 1 Peter 5:6-7  "Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you." 

Psalm 145:18-19 "The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth.  He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them." 

As a 17 year old girl myself, watching this show made me realize a lot of things in regard to relationships and forgivess.  When I was listening to Brandi, it was like listening to just another girlfriend of mine.  I know how stressful boys can be;; just in my cases of course not to the extent of abuse and such.  It's like when your 17 and dealing with the stress of boys, you can identify with these others girls and sort of feel thier pain. My heart goes out to both families- for the physical loss of a son and for the emotional loss of a daughter.  I pray that both families will be able to work this experience out in their hearts and seek out and ask God to help them deal with this trial. 

 I felt bad for Brandi when she was explaining what had happened in the accident.  We all make mistakes... and hers was careless, yes;; BUT in the heat of the moment, sometimes things happen that you don't mean for. I believe her when she said it was an accident.  Just from watching the show and seeing the remorse she felt-- you can tell she didn't mean to hurt Daniel.   

To Brandi's family: Not only do I think the courage you have shown throughout this trial in your life is outstanding and admirable, I also feel that the way that you handled Daniel's mother and sister on the program was very mature and respectable. Not one time did I hear you insult his family, the way that they were badgering you and running you and your daughter/sister down.  Although I know that Daniel's family lost a very wonderful brother and son, and that is so traumatic;; I do not think that the rude comments that Daniel's mother made were at all in the right and should have been said at all. To call Brandi's mother a "piss-poor mother" was down right unclassy.  No mother should ever be called that, no matter what case.  I know that his mother and sister (and whole family!) must be feeling so much pain from the loss, but to act out in anger should not be the answer.   

It made me sad me feel very sad for Daniel's family when his mother and sister repeatedly kept saying that they will never forgive Brandi.  What a shame.  To think that Jesus Christ laid down his life to pay for our sins and he always forgives us for our wrongdoings, and they cannot forgive this poor family.  They will suffer from the pain of Daniel's death for the rest of their lives if they cannot find it in thier heart to forgive and find peace from the Lord.  By forgiving doesn't ever mean you will forget the loss of your son, but instead to find peace in your heart.  Remember that the Lord will never give you something that you can't handle and this trial will help you to become a stronger and closer family.  Look to God in all aspects of your life and trust Him in all that you do.  Good can always come out of a bad situation.   

I just wanted to give my perspective and a 17 year old and tell these families that seeking God and finding forgiveness in your heart is the answer.  I know that it won't be easy, but try it.   

Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God." 

 1 Peter 5:6-7  "Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you." 

Psalm 145:18-19 "The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth.  He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them."