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Quote From: jaimie1974

Your husband should not have the choice to not enforcing rules/boundaries with the children. He needs to understand that by allowing their bad behavior to continue, he is setting them up for a lifetime of disappointment and troubles. If your children learn at home that there are specific rules/boundaries in life, they will go out into the world knowing what to expect. If they do not learn about rules and boundaries at home, they will go out into the world, expecting to do whatever they want to do, whenever they want to, and that is where the disappointment will begin.
You and your husband are the strongest role models that your kids will ever have. They are looking to you to teach them what normal is. Right now, you are teaching them that it is normal to allow their behavior.
You said that youve tried different ways of disciplining, and none seem to work. Youve got to choose ONE method and be 100% consistent with it for at least one week before you will know if it truly works or not. Just trying a method here and there isnt a good indicator of what works. Dr. Phil says hit em where it hurts, meaning take away what they like the most. (this method works the best with my own children. When I say, you have three minutes to get your dirty dishes out of here, if you arent done in three minutes youll lose your DS for 3 days they really get to moving.) All kids are different, so youve got to figure out what their currency is for each.
I wish you the best!