Quote From: al196avMy husband and I have been married for almost 2 and a half years. Everything in the bedroom started out great, in the beginning it was more than once a day although I didn't expect that to last that long. As the months rolled on it went to once a day to a few times a week to once a week to once every couple of weeks, you get the point, now we're at maybe once every 2 months. I have discovered how high of a sex drive I have and realized how low his is. Every time I try to initiate some love I get rejected, EVERY time. And when he initiates, of course I want it and I'm not going to say no! Although sometimes I feel like I should to show him how much it hurts to be rejected by the one you love. Well, is our sex frequency even the least bit normal? I really don't think it is but I want some reassurance. Any advice, anything...?
Well it is normal that when a relationship grows the times you have sex goes down. If you are both happy with it then there is no problem but in this case it doesn't satisfy you so you need to work on it together. Don't compare your sexlife now to the way it was in the beginning of the relationship since that was unusually high (all relationships start out that way, but it is unrealistic that anyone can keep it up very long.)
You say you sometimes want to get even with him and say no yourself, but that is not a good idea. It will create an atmosphere in your relationship of negativity and getting even. It won't do any good to your sexlife in any case. Besides as you pointed out it will leave you unsatisfied.
So what to do? well relationship are communication which is also true for the sexual level of the relationship. Ofcourse you shouldn't bring it up right before you are going to do something or after you are rejected. Try it in a more neuteral time of day after dinner maybe. Talk about each others fantasies, turn-ons etc. Maybe he just wants to do something new but is afraid to ask or you might find out about something else that is bugging him.
Then there may be something in the way you offer the sex. You might go to fast for him. try doing it a bit slower seduce him. Start of by setting the mood in the room, feeding each other food and or giving him a massage.
Then it may be that your sex drive indeed is just higher at the moment then there is a solution that always helps. You have two hands and there are a lot of toys out there, I'd suggest you try them sometime...
