Quote From: diamondmary
From someone who has been through it and we had a will, which the 11 siblings just went to court to protest, (GREED) it is so important to have a parent or all of us for that matter to have our wishes written down AND in legal form.
Still there is a judgement against me, and the greed doesn't stop. And my mother died in 99 and my father in 02. It is ridiculous.
Parents must write things down to share their wishes. Once they are gone, it is to late and the fighting gets ridiculous over everything.
It is NOT just money, it is also memories. It is something you and your parents shared in life and there is a memory.
Yes there is money, but then there is also the circumstance which more and more of use are finding ourselves in of CARETAKER. Our parents do not want to leave their homes and it costs tons to have someone take care of them. AND even if you could afford it, they don't want someone in their house. It is still their house and they want to live their live their life as long as they can.
Groceries, doctors appointments, etc. etc. and cleaning and so much more.
Think about it NOW before it is too late.
AND one final thing is encourage the parents to talk about it to the other siblings. I still have many good years to go and I have lost my house, my business, my savings, my retirement account and still have a judgement
Think and plan ahead. PLEASE!!! if it is done with love, it all works out.
while it's very sweet to say you don't care about a particular will. often discussing it beforehand helps to clearup any misunderstandings and make sure everyone is "on the same page" about how things stand. that way there are no shocks when the person dies and someone finds out they didnt get what they thought they were getting or whatever. and you'relesslikely to have someone contest the will and bring your loved ones to court.
granted, in some famiies such a discussion will lead to arguments while the person is still alive. there may be pressure on mom or dad to change their will, etc. so in some cases, it's not a good idea to discuss the will. one has to use one's judgement. and of course,in most cases, the decision whether to discuss it or not should be that of the person making the will,
