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April 24, 2008, 4:00 pm PDT
You may be right
Quote From: garyla75For 1 i am a mother of a child that could not face her own biolgical father to send him away , when she seen a picture of him she would break down. so now tell me how this mother is suppose to put him in prision? you need to find out all the fact on how the system works because it killed me when he got what he did because she could not face him. and as doing something to him myself the law protects them they become a victim if hurt over the case .then they will drop the case. trust me i had all this read to me when my lil girl was going threw a forensic interview. everybody says they will do this and that when it hasnt happend to them its very easy to say , but when it does happen to ur child all u can do is push the justic system and push hard. and by no means am i a bellyrubber! i have to live w/ what happend to my daughter and i have nightmares everynight thinking about makes me very sick, and i cry every single day knowing the pure hell my daughter has to deal with,i have her in counsleing,she has a physcatrist,plus she can come to me and her grand mother any time i want her to come out of this strong,not a victim. my husband now has adopted her to make sure her bio father can never see or talk or touch her in any way,plus my hubby loves her w/ all his heart. in the end she will be strong! I have been through a similar situation. I really wish Dr. Phil or any other public figure would tell the ins and outs of what happens when sexual abuse situations are reported. It truly is a very scary situation. It has been my experience that if the mother reports the incident to childrens services along with the child it is the best. However it is extremley confusing if you have no one to guide you through the system. You are completely right to have your child in counsleling, however counsleling for you is nessacary too to help you cope with this nightmare. I found it was the best when I obtained my own counsil and not that of the court. They very much hepled through the process and you have no one better to represent you in court then someone who knows you and your child on a professional basis. My daughter was molested by her parternal grandfather for over 13 years. He was prosecuted and spent only 7 years behind bars. That was the longest sentence allowed by law, sad. My daugter is now 21 years old and still deals with anxiety and post trumatic stress disorder, but she is in college and learning to be a pilot, and doing quite well. She wanted me to tape this Dr Phil so we could watch it together when she comes home. I must admit we get very fustrated when we see how other family members handle the situation in thier own families, but we have great empathy because we know how scary the situation is. Unfortunatly sympathy for your child is not enough, you must keep trying to find counsil for both of you and continue to do what you can to make sure the person who did this to your child is prosecuted to the full extent of the law. God Bless you with your recovery.
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