Replies to '04/24 A Boy in Trouble'

Quote From: snazzygirl

From most of the commentary I have read to this point, alot of them have been "anti-mother," and perhaps, some of that 'anger' is justified.  Yet, before we "fry" the mothers, for their lack of involvement in the protection of their children, what about the fathers or the perpetrators of the abuse??  In a way, the mothers are just as 'abused' as the victims/survivors, the fear, helplessness, SHAME, guilt, etc., they face on a daily basis, is as paralyzing as the abuse perpetrated on their children.  It is the same ole, same ole, blame the victim mentality, if they would have done this, or they would have been more vigilant, this wouldn't have happened.  Hello!!  What about the abusers??!!  Where is their moral decency??  Why is it, that we seem to make excuses for the abuser, but not for mothers involved??  Instead, we seem to rush to assign blame to them, for their lack of protection of their children, when, in a large part, they are just as victiminized as the abused?  Just some questions that sprang to mind when I was reading through the commentary, up to this point. 

Quote From: snazzygirl

From most of the commentary I have read to this point, alot of them have been "anti-mother," and perhaps, some of that 'anger' is justified.  Yet, before we "fry" the mothers, for their lack of involvement in the protection of their children, what about the fathers or the perpetrators of the abuse??  In a way, the mothers are just as 'abused' as the victims/survivors, the fear, helplessness, SHAME, guilt, etc., they face on a daily basis, is as paralyzing as the abuse perpetrated on their children.  It is the same ole, same ole, blame the victim mentality, if they would have done this, or they would have been more vigilant, this wouldn't have happened.  Hello!!  What about the abusers??!!  Where is their moral decency??  Why is it, that we seem to make excuses for the abuser, but not for mothers involved??  Instead, we seem to rush to assign blame to them, for their lack of protection of their children, when, in a large part, they are just as victiminized as the abused?  Just some questions that sprang to mind when I was reading through the commentary, up to this point.