Quote From: compsmom I believe that most people think tthat the problem will just go away as long as they watch their children closer. Especially if the child was molested by a family member. In alot of cases the parent was also molested by someone and it has always been a secret. They think that they have handled it and so will the child.
As this case shows, it has not gone away and the boy is now perpetuating the problem. His parents should have done something when he was four instead of waiting until now.
Why did you not do something to help the child you babysat for? Instead of abandoning him like every one else?
I am amazed at how many comments have been made so far on a show that has yet to air. How quickly people are to judge......to assume that I never sought out help for my son before this point......to go so far as to call me a monster.
The truth of the matter is that I had no recollection of my own abuse until 6 years ago.....at which time I did cut the ties with my father.......unfortunately the damage had already been done.
As far as reaching out for help.......I exhausted every resource I could find in my area. My son has been seeing counsellors, therapists, and psychiatrists since he was in grade one. We tried group therapy and even had numerous appointments with the principle of the school he was attending at the time.
Turning to the Dr Phil show was simply one more effort on my part to seek out more help.......help that I had been seeking for the past 6 years.
It is sad that the level of understanding is as such.......there are so many agencies out there that help people with addiction, anger management, domestic abuse and so forth.......however when it comes to sexual abuse I have found it more difficult to find the help required......especially for a child. If you look into some of the amazing programs for children like I have, one of the things that they make very clear is that they will help your child so long as he or she hasn't acted out in unacceptable sexual ways......
I recently had an invitation to enroll my son in such a program but after sending in the application, I was told they don't accept a child who has a sexual history such as my sons.
Along with seeking out help, I also have been to the police. I have filled out a written statement as well as a video interview........no action has been taken on the part of the authorities. I continue to feel like I keep hitting a brick wall.....however, that has not stopped my quest for help, healing and justice.
When the shows are aired this week, I hope that people will be able to come away more educated and with more understanding rather than accusations, anger, and finger pointing.
Not one of us can really know exactly what we would do if we were in someone else's shoes until we actually walk in them.
