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Quote From: trishaengstrom

Its makes me so sad to hear stories like this, because I was in this position once.  I am now a 32 year old mother of 5 children who was sexually molested by my grandfather at the age of 4-6 years old.  My mother was also too molested and just recently it came out in my mothers family that my grandfather touched his sister too.  I kept it a secret for about 11 years and finally came out and told my mother.  When I did tell her she comforted me, but then told me not to tell my grandmother cause it would break her heart.  So, because my mom asked me this I then kept it a secret and my mom never got me any type of help.  I had my first child, which was a girl and made it very clear and whispered to my grandpa that he would NEVER touch or hold my child ever.  About 5-6 years later he passed away.  My book was never closed, I really never got to face him and let him know that what he did was wrong.  If it was up to me he should of rotted in jail when I told my mom.  My grandma passed away about 2 years ago never knowing what he did to me, but it did just recently come out that it did indeed happen to not only me and my mom, but his sister too.  My book was never closed and I still to this day live with all the memories.  I had such a hard time with being married and majority men eventually remind me of him.  I feel terrible and the pain this family is going thru and my heart goes out to you guys!