Quote From: normanohio
There is so much drama in your family because Sonya works overtime to create it.
Everything I saw makes me think Sonya has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You need research this and learn how to deal with a family member with this personality.
Sonja does not behave like a normal person. The major thing is not to get too close and do not say or do anything that can be manipulated into a personal insult. You will never have a normal loving relationship with someone with BPD.
Things consistant with BPD that I am familiar with:
A totally distrusting nature.
Heightened sense of insult (elevating tiny things into personal insult)
Everything is about self: how it affects or the persons emotional response to the situation.
Inability to control their emotional response.
Always has someone on their sh** list.
Insulting others severely, but not accepting the smallest insult
Using money to manipulate
Never forgetting or forgiving
Very little empathy for others feelings. (Only on an intelectual level, but not on a true emotional level)
Refusal to accept any blame for the poor relationship or an emotional blow-up.
I am sure there are more official lists, but these are the things I am familiar with and experienced in my family.
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I have BPD in my family too, and you have nailed it with Sonja. She could be the poster child for Narcissistic-Borderline personality disorder. She's a classic case.
There is NO way to have any kind of normal relationships with these people. They just aren't capable of it. They can't relate emotionally. They spend their lives feeling threatened and insulted and are VERY quick to do the same to everyone who comes into their paths. Poor Lisa and Sarah, they got short changed in the mother that they have.
