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April 28, 2008, 6:47 am PDT
If the Mother doesnt remember until later
Quote From: sahmto2girlsIt's amazing at some of the posts I'm reading on this subject and the rude remarks about this mother whose life was ruined when she was just a small baby! Unless you have been molested, you will never know what we sexual abuse survivors deal with each day. It doesn't matter if you get counceling or what, you will still live with knowing you were sexually abused. I was abused by my step-mom's father. I didn't tell anyone until 4 years into the sexual abuse...but I do know that today I wouldn't let my children around that man. However, he is a good guy despite what he did to me as a child/teenager and I have forgiven him.. but I still wouldn't let him around my daughters unless I was right there with them. We don't know the circumstances of what went on here UNTIL we have seen the show.. so until then, maybe you shouldn't be judging this mother. She's been through enough! If the mother didn't remember the abuse until later it is very understandable that she left her son around her father. I understand how appalling it is to those who have not been abused and how hard it is to understand. I too was severely molested and abused by my mother, who also molested my biological father, so I am a product of that relationship. I never trusted people to watch my children, but did not understand why until later.
When a child has been molested and conditioned to believe that they are the crazy ones, or disloyal, and when they have completely blocked it out and repressed it because it is so horrific and unbelieveable, they are more likely to allow their children around the molester. Because they don't remember it! It wasn't until I was 3 years sober that I began to remember. I ws told I was crazy, a liar, evil, the black sheep, and that I had a brain tumor. I have to relationship with them today. I found out from one of my sons and a nephew that they were molested too by my mother. It wasn't until they were grown, and my son is in prison, my nephew has had major problems and has nothing to do with my family except for me because of the abuse and the rage that he has toward them.
Yes I got help for my children, and yes for myself. It is easy to judge others if you haven't been there. The really revolting and terrifying part is that many people still don't believe me. You get to be the castigated one and still there is no help because as my mother would say and that evil vile, father of Sherri Lyn, there is no proof, there is only her word against his. My mother also informed me that a lie detector test would not hold up in court. My father who is also her victim, is married to her today after my mother divorced my legal father who was like a father to him. My bio father will protect her to the death. My sister and brother do not speak to me because even though I know that at least my brother believes me and was molested too, I have destroyed the family.
The other question I have is I would like to know how they know that Sherri Lyn wasn't impregnated by her father and that he didn't take her to a witch to have an abortion? Is the story just too incredible? He is such a monster, and anyone who would do what he did to his daughter is very capable of perpetuating such another monstrosity. I would bet that that memory is true too. No wonder Sherri Lyn has had such a hard time standing up to her family! I would like to take an extenstion cord to her father for about a week myself. What a vile evil monster.
Until people start believing children more, and paying attention to their behavior there will be no change. Children want to love their parents and have relationships with them. I don't believe children make things up like this. You can bet that Sherri Lyn's brother and his children too have been molested. Their evil monster father didn't just molester her, her son and his siblings. I can't imagine how many others he has victimized. God! To think he has the audacity to sit there and say he loves children, and wants to work in a Bible camp makes me livid!
After years of therapy and recovering in 12 step programs, I have broken free. It is still very sad, damaging and painful. So unless you have been there try not to judge. There are a lot more families out there like us than you would ever imagine. I would like to take my fist and bash in the face of that monster, the father of Sherri Lyn for sitting there and lying and claiming to love Jesus. His wife is no better, but probably a victim of molestation herself to be able to be in such denial. God bless Sherri Lyn her husband and especially that dear litttle damaged boy. I hope his grandfather rots in hell!
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