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I was a molested child for at least five years that I can remember, by my father.  When I was 12 my best friends father frenched kissed me.   I did not confront my father or speak a word of it until my early thirties and only then first realized that he molested my older sister also.  My children were never exposed to my father because I always knew (somehow) that he would do it again.  Several years later, discussing wth two of my sister-in-laws that they felt as though he was molesting one of the grandchildren . I warned them to keep their children away from him but to no avail they decided to ignore what I had told them.  One of their children was also molested by my father. I'm not sure how many of us (seven of his children) that he molested.  People do not want to believe that a family member could actually be that evil.  Even though they knew he was a pervert, they still took the chance of exposing their children to him.  Fear of maybe being wrong or fear of confronting a family member/friend and then what comes with that. ie: children being taken away, court hearings and investigations.  They know but they don't want to face it for what it really is.  I did finally confront my father when a neice came to me and told me what he did to her.  I felt like exploding inside. It was all I could do to keep my sanity long enough to confront him.  What happened next was everything I expected from my mother and many family members. Total denial and turmoil.  I didn't care.  All I cared about was that it couldn't go on ever again in my family. My father passed away roughly within a year. He did admit what he did about three days after being confronted.  My family didn't speak to me for about fifteen years and my mother (ON HER DEATH BED) stated she was sorry--she didn't know. It would have been nice to hear that before she was on her death bed.  I also, say if you suspect anything at all, protect your children, neighbors children or anyone you might know or come into contact with who has been/is being abused.  They need you to take them away from the abuser and believe in them.  Fear is  very powerful.   The positive thing is that my brothers and sister are reunited after fifteen years and trying to make sense of our childhood.  The years that we missed in each other's lives have had a painful effect on all our lives BUt, we are finally working through it.  It's great to reconnect .